James and I are really re-thinking how we want our wedding to go, and so I decided to ask people who HAVE been married, about their wedding experience. Right now our wedding plans are: big wedding, approx 300 people invited. WAY casual reception to follow.
But some of you all who read this have been married, sooooooooooo.... can I probe into the depths of your brains for a moment?
1. Tell me about your wedding. Was it big or small? Themed? Any unique things inserted?
2. If you could do your wedding over, what would you have done differently?
3. If you could do your wedding over, what would you NEVER EVER change?
4. Do you have any advice for James & I?
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1st wedding at 19: VERY large, gorgeous white dress, bridesmaids and groomsmen, formal reception, the whole deal, including a champagne fountain and honeymoon afterwards. 2nd wedding (same guy): notary, cake at the local bar. I wore a pants outfit I had made. (does it count if you remarry the same guy?) 3rd wedding at the courthouse with my two kids, his mom and a girlfriend who hugged me all the way thru the ending of the 2nd marriage to the first guy. On Valentine's day (I asked him to marry me on Sadie Hawkins Day). I wore a cream colored skirt and blouse (that I still have but couldn't fit into if I tried) Reception that weekend at our house catered by us. I wouldn't change anything about any of them.
It's the two of you who make the day and the memories. Whatever you decide will be perfect.
my only advice is to do what you want, what is in your heart and have fun :) xox
I agree with Tammy, that whatever you decide it will be perfect.
Well, there are some pics on my blog as I just got married a couple weeks ago, but let's see..
1. Tell me about your wedding. Was it big or small? Themed? Any unique things inserted?: It was about 140 people. There was an underlying theme of trees (trees in a box for favors, tree imagery on the seating chart and table names (which were named for trees), branches in the centerpieces, trees drawn on the cake with birds on top, trees in the program design, fall leaves stamped on the placecards, trees on the invitations...you get the idea. i loved the theme. :-) There were loads of candles everywhere. It was in a ballroom that was built in the 1920's and had a very unique feel to it.
2. If you could do your wedding over, what would you have done differently? I can't think of anything!
3. If you could do your wedding over, what would you NEVER EVER change? I would never change our ceremony. The hubster wrote the song that a string quartet played when I walked down the aisle and we wrote our own vows which were romantic and funny at the same time.
4. Do you have any advice for James & I? Try not to stress too much. Know that not everything will turn out perfectly, but it won't matter at all. Take breaks from planning and enjoy being engaged. Figure out what's most important to you as individuals in a wedding and then make those things happen. And have fun with it!
I agree, do what you want. It's your wedding. Do not tailor it to please others!
We had a super small wedding, 33 people and that includes the photographer and her husband. I wouldn't have had it any other way. It was so pretty and intimate and we all had fun together. I stayed true to what I wanted and there was still a lot of family drama but that's OK. There will always be drama at a wedding. Be prepared for that, you can't please everyone. The only thing I would change is me expecting to please everyone. I should have known better.
Focus on you, lovely Jana!
You were there, but since you said you don't remember, I'll answer your questions.
1. There were about 50-60 people. I had peach and seafoam for the colors. Made the flowers, dresses, cake, etc. Nothing unique about it really.
2. I would have had some fun music to walk down to and from. They didn't do that so much then as they do now. I would have made a point of getting some type of honeymoon. The brakes went out on the car and I had to use the honeymoon $ to fix them. I've been married 17+ years and I'm still waiting!
3. The location, mom and sister married there and grandpa attended there for a number of years before becoming a pastor.
4. Advice is set the date and get the church and reception hall reserved now. Also make arrangements for whatever you are going to do for food (catering, etc). Secondly, make it all your own. If you guys have a fav song, then play it or if you guys are both into a certain movie or something, make it part of the theme. Have FUN and don't spend a ton of money.
Ive only ever been married once
I was 22
I am praying for you and James
I hope you have a wonderful weeding day
I should have done things differently from the start
I didnt feel right about it
I went thought with it because my father had spent a lot of $$
dont ever get married unless you know its the right thing to do
Im sure this will not be a problem for you and your hunny
It was a medium sized wedding
It was held in the school hall
how fricking romantic is that!!!
I would have insisted on an outside wedding (or probably church wedding) now
We had an area to dance in but I didnt have the courage to dance in the end
I probably wouldnt spend a lot of $$ if I was going to do it again
I think its more important to start married life without stress and $$ troubles which can arise from BIG weddings
When Mr Wonderful and I finally tie the knot
we are thinking of either the registry office or outside somewhere and we dont want a lot of people coming its really about the 2 of us after all
I am so not the expert....my first marriage did not last....
however now going on my second...here are a few pieces of advice...
book whatever it is you decided early..never settle for anything less then what you want....go with what feels right, fun and makes you happy.
Do Not cave under stress or pressure what other people want in your wedding...make the day special and fun and memorable for you and your hunnie...small or big..keep to your budget...it can get very out of hand. I like the personal touches at weddings...homemade things - just makes it more personal...
positive thoughts sent your way that all the planning goes the way you want....
ONE LAST THING - surround yourself with people who lift you up...not because you are obliged to have them there!
I'm not married (yet) but my advice is to make it FOR YOU, rather than for anyone else. Do it your way! That's what I plan on doing should Mike and I ever decide to take the plunge (which we will at some point!)
I'm going to wear Red!! :)
Whatever you decide and whatever happens, I hope it is deeply meaningful and absolutely perfect for the two of you.
1. Tell me about your wedding. Was it big or small? Themed? Any unique things inserted?
Justin and I had a winter wedding and were married in the evening. Some unique things. We entered the reception to the Carmina Burana, which was a blast. We had the wedding party and their partners all sit at the head table so that loved ones didn't have to spend dinner away from each other. Justin's mom walked him down the aisle.
2. If you could do your wedding over, what would you have done differently?
I would have hired the photographer to stay for the reception.
3. If you could do your wedding over, what would you NEVER EVER change?
Justin. Our wedding party. The fact that we made every planning step an event to be enjoyed.
4. Do you have any advice for James & I?
If there's something in your heart you really want for your wedding, make sure it's included. This is your day, a memory to last you a lifetime. Enjoy all of the planning as much as you can. Use it as bonding time, time to get to know each other and your preferences and priorities even better.
And on a practical note, if you're wearing white make sure you bring chalk. You can cover scuffs and marks with it (I learned this from a woman in a shoe store and we used it on the wedding day)
big hugs,
Jamie
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