Last night, I went home, and FIXED THE KITCHEN PLUMBING!!!!! Yes, seriously! I took off a piece of pipe, discovered the problem, bought a part, and re-installed the pipe! I also demolished a shelf that had disintegrated due to the leaking water... VERY fun! I got to hit it lots of times with heavy objects! *giggle* Then I cleaned up my mess, and tonight I get to try it out and make sure it is still not leaking. If it is, I'll just need to get some silicone sealant for it.
And I did it all, wearing a SKIRT! (I always wear skirts, except to bed, where I wear superwoman jammie pants that match my superwoman undies.) Yes! And when I went to Menards, I was wearing PINK! YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who says a woman can't be feminine and succeed in the world, huh?!
Which brings me to a thought...
Oh Shelley's blog this week, she said... "Perhaps it is a story about trying to "make it" as woman...whatever that means. I did not have many examples of that in my family."
Shelleys quote got me thinking about what it means to "make it" as a woman... What DOES it mean???
My mom survived an abusive marriage, left it, raised me alone from age 14 to adulthood, and lives alone in a house she owns. Is that "making it"? Does that fact that her church and others have helped her achieve this all make her less of a success? Is scraping pennies from paycheck to paycheck really how I want to "make it"?
I don't know how to define "making it" as a woman. I know that for myself, I need to be skilled enough to make it financially whether I stay single all of my life, or marry James. (I had a dream that he proposed last night!!!!! *swoon* But I digress....) I know that I have to be strong enough to stand on my own, financially, emotionally, etc, without "needing" a man to complete me. I know that I need to be involved in our finances, our legal matters, and all things of that sort... if James ever were to pass away, I want to be able to go on, alone.
So I suppose that to me, "making it" as a woman means being strong enough to stand alone, even if I CHOOSE to fall into James' arms at the end of the day.
What does "making it" as a woman mean to you?
6 comments:
Look at you! A skirt wearing plummer? What is James thinking...that's hot! lol
HUGS
Making it to me is having someone who loves you and thinks you're great when you're not always. Allowed to be me! Being comfortable with few bills ;)Drama free enviornment!
Making it: finding the balance between the independence I want and the partnership of marriage. In The Prophet I think it's described as standing side by side with enough space for the wind to blow through. Absolutely knowing that I can support myself in the manner to which I am accustomed (my own house, a car that runs, time to play, a bit of travel) by myself. the house might be smaller, the car couldn't possibly be older or have more miles (420K and counting), and the travel might be shorter. But I know I can because I carry my half now and have done it alone by myself before.
I actually think your description is spot on.
WTG Jana
and it feels good that we as woman can do anything
making it as a woman means to me: following my heart and my ideals, being able to stand on my two feet but being strong enough to lean on others when need be and being there to hold up those i love when they need me ...
: ) i love that you did your own plumbing in a skirt no less ~ you are my superhero babe!
hmmmmm!!
i am wearing a pink skirt !!!
making it as a woman -
to love deeply
to live passionately and creatively
to be curious, alive and enchanted...
to live each moment as if it is a miracle...
:)
wonderful blog!
My thoughts on "making it" is survival, no matter what it takes.
And that is exactly what my mom did, although, she did it completely on her own. Her family and my dad's tossed her to the curb, when she decided to divorce a raging alcoholic and chose safety for herself and her three little girls.
If a woman gets help from someone, that is still perceived as "making it." Because she had the courage to ask or accept help.
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